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  1. Joy Yango
    November 3, 2018 @ 5:58 pm

    This is well articulated Linda. “A happy marriage”, is an institution that is so dear to me. I don’t see it any other way. Think of a day when you had a heated argument with a friend, partner etc. Think about how you felt, how troubled you were, maybe just for one day. Can you live like that most days of your life? Sounds appalling.

    Putting God first allows us to forgive easily. Forgiveness to me is key. As long we don’t find ourselves forgiving for the same thing over and over again. We are all human and make errors, but when you honor, trust and respect, some errors should not become a habit. Having a solid foundation should allow us to pick our battles.

    It definitely helps when we find a partner that can support our dreams and aspirations. Sometimes, human nature lets us feel incompetent or incapable of achieving certain dreams, either bc: we now married a rich man or woman, have children, etc.

    Sometimes, even when we feel like we have married Mr. or Mrs. Right? Things change in the course of the marriage. Reality kicks in. We need the grace of God to accept certain changes, need love to conquer those differences. We should always remember as a couple, we are 2 different people, there should be room for adjustment.

    I believe alot of couples that go through a divorce, delayed in tackling their differences early enough, feared to seek counseling, or sometimes just mere pride. Refuse listening to Gods voice, or it wasn’t their foundation in the first place.

    Divorce “sucks”. I have some close family members who have been through. It’s a nasty process emotionally, financially…

    However, it was their way out of misery to finding happiness again. No one ever knows where the shoe pinches until you wear it.

    In a marriage, both parties have to put in the work. It cannot be one sided. And yes, God should be the center of it all.

    We are all a work in progress and can do better. Outside of seeking God, it also helps to seek expert advice when you both can’t handle it.

    Thanks for bringing this up for discussion.


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